Failure is not the end of your world - it's the start

Failing at a small test might help you succeed at bigger ones - if you only choose to learn from your mistakes

It will not be hilarious to call failures as builders of success. Failures are often quoted as pillars of success. There are many proverbs, stories about failures used to inspire those who have failed in one way or another. Success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right the first time. Indeed it will be true to call every winner as a failure: a winner must have tasted the sweetness of failure. Every failure is not a winner, but every winner is the output of several failed experiences that have had helped him/her in stepping towards later success.
Failure is not an option. It is just an experience or lesson which drives a person to his/her success until he/she will not give up. It is life’s greatest teacher which teaches us how to achieve success. Success is neither a cup of tea nor a piece of cake. It is something more than an achievement. Unfortunately many of us give up and do not like to follow the experience of failing. It’s impossible to taste success in life without experiencing some kind of failure. It’s a part of life; everyone drinks from its bitter cup at some time or the other.  Countries taste it when they get defeated in any war or fail to bring peace, businessmen taste it when they incur losses, politicians when they lose election, doctors when an operation fails, students when they fail in examination, so and so forth.
We cannot say that a winner should be a failure first, as it wastes lots of time. But failure makes one more experienced. It is just an opportunity which wastes time but serves a good lesson for the rest of our life. It’s like when a child topples over when first learning to walk. It’s when a researcher fails in a subject over and over again, but later tops the same subject.  It’s only after a child fails in writing letters, alphabets and digits that he learns to write, first a word then a sentence – and then a book. All good experiences come after bad ones.
History stands witness that there were hundreds of thousands of failures who failed and chose to give up by committing suicide. Our news channels are showing such news all the time. History also stands witness that there were also many persons who failed but survived and then created history by making a name in any field: in science & technology, research, discovery, invention, creation, etc. Take the example of Steve Jobs who was fired from his own company or of Bill Gates who failed his exams but still managed to become the world’s richest person. The list is endless.
Society doesn’t reward defeat, and you won’t find many failures documented/written in history books. The exceptions are those failures that whose brilliance brought them success later. Such is the case of Thomas Edison, whose most memorable invention was the light bulb, which purportedly took him 1,000 tries before he developed a successful prototype. “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” a reporter asked. “I didn’t fail 1,000 times,” Edison responded. “The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Nobody in this world chooses to fail, but everyone tastes the bitter cup at some point in their lives.  It serves as a mirror at each end of our life. It reveals our strengths, weakness, and helps in demonstrating ourselves by strengthening our efforts.
In the words of Rabindranath Tagore:
“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not look for allies in life's battlefield but to my own strength.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved but hope for the patience to win my freedom.
Grant me that I may not be a coward, feeling your mercy in my success alone; but let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure”
A failed experience delivers a lesson which teaches us to stand up to each problem. We learn more from our failures than from our triumphs. Don’t let success blind you from the fact that failure was always your greatest teacher and inspiration. No matter how successful you might be, it’s important to stay humble. Don’t get too ahead of yourself. Success is as fleeting as life itself, it can all be taken away at a moment’s notice. Nothing is permanent. The only constant in life is change. Remember that success might change your life, but it should never change who you are inside. Be respectful to everyone you encounter, and give back to the world around you.
I will end my sermon with two memorable quotes, for those who contemplate taking their lives after failing an exam:
"As Einstein said: 'Just because a fish cannot climb a tree doesn't mean it's not smart”.
“I failed in some subjects in exam, but my friend passed in all. Now he is an engineer in Microsoft and I am the owner of Microsoft.”- Bill Gates


Zargar Yasir is a Srinagar-based web security analyst acknowledged by Google, Yahoo, Facebook, Oracle, Nokia, Adobe, Apple. Follow him on Twitter

Remorse To Blame Erdagon

Today Turkish president Erdogan, has been accused of declaring women and men are not equal. He has declared status of women and men are not equal, because this is against human nature, the two sexes are biologically different. The devoutly Turkish president said biological differences meant women and men could not serve the same functions, adding that manual work was unsuitable for the “delicate nature” of women. He further stated that Instead of equality, he recommended what he called “equivalency”.

He smashed at feminist who, according to him “don't accept the concept of motherhood”. Also he claimed motherhood to be prime role of women, reciting a hadith from holy Quran “heaven lies at our mother’s feet”.

“This is one of the most convincing things about Islam - the treatment of women in general and especially the high position mothers hold in Islam. Islam commands kindness, respect and obedience to parents and specifically emphasizes and gives preference to the mother. Qur'an emphasizes the great struggles the mother goes through for her child, to highlight the need for one to reciprocate their parents sacrifice for them”.

“A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: “(Then) stay with her, for Paradise / the Garden is at her feet.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

“I do accept his statement as he believes in Motherhood”.
He further explained “Motherhood is something else”, claiming that it should be a woman’s priority because Islam exalts women as mothers. He went on to say that women and men could not be treated equally “because it goes against the laws of nature”.

Though it is universally accepted, role of women is important to raise and generate new generations. It is also accepted women is 1st asylum for her children. We must also accept it women is 1st guide for her children.

He insisted every women should have three children and proposing to limit abortion rights, access to the morning-after pill and caesarean sections.

He recalled: “I would kiss my mother’s feet because they smelled of paradise. She would glance coyly and cry sometimes.

Erdagon has explained women as mother, although he forgot to explain women as daughter, wife etc.

It will be blasphemous to say , women’s are slaves and men’s are their rulers. Though Turkish president does not mean to demoralise the moral values of women. If we consider men as ruler then we have to consider women as realm of it. We cannot blame Erdogan for his poignant words towards women, as he only mean to define women as mother. It will be absurdly to blame him.

He explain physiques of women, their characters, habits are different … You cannot place a mother breastfeeding her baby on an equal footing with men.“You cannot make women work in the same jobs as men do, as in communist regimes. You cannot give them a shovel and tell them to do their work. This is against their delicate nature.”

He complained that in previous decades, women in Anatolian villages had done the back-breaking work while their menfolk idled away the time.

“Wasn’t it the case in Anatolia? Our poor mothers suffered immensely and got hunchbacks while the men were playing cards and rolling dice at teahouses,” he said.

Actually it is not by nature which makes women’s different from men. Both of them are important as we can say one will not work until another will not support. . Yes admittedly, their biological functions do vary, they may be different in anatomy but not unequal in worth and dignity. It is also mentioned in the Holy Quran that men and women are created from the same Nafs. Although we all are created from same thing, just a single biological difference will not create inequality between the two sexes.

He further stated that “What women need is to be able to be equivalent, rather than equal. Because equality turns the victim into an oppressor and vice versa.”

By this he means to say we can say women is not equal but is equivalent ,as women cannot work like men, “You cannot make women work in the same jobs as men do”

In short Erdagon has stated all this from “Mothers point of view”. one has to cede it.

Yasir Altaf Zargar is a writer and Security Analyst from Srinagar and the first Kashmiri to be Acknowledged by Google ,Yahoo, Microsoft, Nokia,Adobe, Apple.He Tweets as @zargaryasir.

An Irani Girl: Victim Of Injustice

An Irani Girl: Victim Of Injustice

Reyhaneh Jabbari, an Muslim Irani girl, was arrested in 2007 for the murder of Morteza Aabdolali Sarbandi, a former employee of Iran’s ministry of intelligence. While the whole world talks about empowering women, the world is ignorant of the fact of another young Muslim women fighting for her life in Iran.  

Her crime was stabbing a man to death, a man who tried to rape her.

In 2008 Reyhaneh an interior decorator went to a coffee shop, sat and started talking on phone in relation to her job. After finishing the conversation on the phone, two men approached her. One of them introduced himself as a former employee of Iran’s Ministry of defence, namely Morteza Abdolali Sarbandi and asked her to decorate their office. As an interior designer and need for the job, Reyhaneh agreed to their proposal for the decoration and they took her number.

Few days passed Sarbandi’s friend believed to be the second man who had approached her at the coffee shop, called her on the phone, with regard to the decoration. On getting to the building, they went up to the fourth floor, they opened the door. She was welcomed by Sarbandi in a dusty and empty apartment. Reyhaneh left the door unclosed, but Sarbandi ordered to close the door and she should take off her scarf. She refused and Sarbandi approached her romantically. Reyhaneh tried departing, but was stopped by Sarbandi. Sarbandi got angry and came menacingly towards her. Reyhaneh resisted his advances as much as she could, but Sarbandi got hostile. Sensing immediately danger Reyhaneh managed to lay hands on knife which she used to defend herself. But as Sarbandi’s attack got much stronger, so did Reyhaneh’s, which is when she stabbed him.

The second man rushed into the apartment and suddenly engaged in fight with Sarbandi. The fight between the two men was to pave the way for Reyhaneh’s escape. She managed to escape and reached home. However, her ordeal was not over yet. The police was able to trace her and arrested her at about 2:00 clock and charged with murder. 

For six long years, the Iranian court has failed to notice the fact that she faced the imminent threat of rape. In their evidence, it was shown a plastic bag which was found in Sarbandi’s possession containing condoms and a drinking laced with sedatives for his victim. Yet the court overlooked the fact and Reyhaneh was charged with murder and was sentenced to death in 2009. She had no witness and she must be executed for murder. Reyhaneh may be forcibly put to a wrongful death anytime for a fault that was far from her. Her execution verdict was upheld by Iran’s Supreme Court.

Her case drew international cry and sparked a petition urging her release, which has granted over 190,000 signatures.

I am surprised, despite the evidences prove Reyhaneh innocent, then for what she will be executed.

Reyhaneh’s story slaps international community who praises women empowerment around the globe. Reyhaneh’s story is the story of those brave Muslim girls who have been labelled as murderers or who face charges of adultery for defending themselves.

Iran is an Islamic country, how they could reject the plea of Reyhaneh and order for her execution. Not only in Iran, but also in our Pakistan and Kashmir these cases are common. My question to whole Muslim community , when they will wake up from their deep sleep and save innocent women’s like Reyhaneh and Dr. Aafia.

"If today, we will not raise our voice for Reyhaneh and Aafia then the day is not far, when Allah s.w.t will shower stones on us".

A small note by Reyhaneh to her mother:-

"Goodbye, dear Mum. All of my pains will finish early tomorrow morning. I'm sorry I cannot lessen your pain. Be patient. We believe in life after death. I'll see you in the next world and I will never leave you again because being separated from you is the most difficult thing to do in the world."

About Author:-

Yasir Altaf Zargar

He is a writer and Security Analyst from Srinagar and the first Kashmiri to be Acknowledged by Google ,Yahoo, Microsoft, Nokia,Adobe, Apple.He Tweets as @zargaryasir.


This Article Was Published On National News Portal Of Pakistan:http://blogs.arynews.tv/irani-girl-victim-injustice/